On the Preservation of a Good Temper in a Housekeeper Response

A housekeeper is someone who is "habitually gentle, sympathizing, forbearing, and cheerful, carries an atmosphere about her, which imparts a soothing and sustaining influence, and renders it easier for all to do right, under her administration". Beecher says the housekeeper must have a cheerful temper so in a main sense to not disrupt the rest of the household. If she did not she would "destroy all the comfort which otherwise would result from her system, neatness, and economy".
In a nutshell, Beecher's list of considerations are to "regard her duties as dignified, important and difficult". A woman should also see her influence on the family and how her mood affects everyone. She must also be organized and ready, always prepared for her "best-arranged plans" to be "interfered with, very often". A woman must lead by example because her children will follow all that she does. When she is irritated, "she will not speak, till she can do it in a calm and gentle manner", because angry tones are not necessary. A woman must also be ready for misbehavior because it is "must unreasonable, to expect the consideration and car of a mature mind, in childhood and youth". A woman must also understand that all events taken place in the household are "brought about by the permission of our Heavenly Father.
Beecher makes the assumption that women should lead the household,and that a housekeeper and the woman of the house are interchangeable. They are both housekeepers but in different ways. The actual housekeeper does the dirty work, (cooking, cleaning, etc.), while the woman of the house orders all of it to be done. It is through hierarchy.